i damaged my daughters hair!

Sunday 15 2024 was the day I got my mojo back, about hair that is.

I cant lie, for the past year I found doing my daughter’s hair a challenge: exhausting, draining and for the most part having that cultural tradition of doing hair on a Sunday EVERY SUNDAY, just became like ground hog day. It know longer became fun. And as a result I just got bored of it.. just doing 2 sets of hair every week or so.

The days of using my own products, experimenting with concoctions, making my own butters and conditioners became mundane and a lot of work, especially as i had a newborn attached to my hip. As a result, it put me in a position to buying products straight from the hair shops...why? Because it was just easier, and it meant i didn't have to think of a new treatment to come up with for wash day. 

Ill be frank, easier doesn’t always mean better, because I started noticing a significant change to my eldest daughter’s hair.

Products for “black hair” that were raved about by my peers, just weren’t working like they claimed in the many reviews i saw plastered all over social media. But, because i wanted to trust the process, i kept using them, with the hopes that an improvement will take place, but guess what... it just only got worse & thats with MOST of the black owned products, which had high reviews, they all came with the same result… just meh.

Rivah's hair was brittle, her ends were shabby, they kept knotting & no matter how much I would trim or moisturise, her hair would always just come out feeling lacklustre, sticky and dry.

Although, I was still very much on the defence mode about doing hair on a Sunday, i was adamant my mind was set on not letting this war on her hair defeat me, Despite the many attempts at being told I should just take her to a hair salon. A HAIR SALON!!! She’s only 8!! Are you alright!! I haven’t seen a salon in over 15 years… nah she’s good. I’ll figure it out!

Yes yes I’m very stubborn like that.

But, May 2024 we moved location, out of the way of London. London was no longer our hub for getting black hair products with a 10minutes walk down the road… I had to improvise. I went back to square one, my good old trusting Liquid Gold! Oh how I’ve been a sell out! Here I am selling it, but why haven’t I been consistent like I used to be 🤔💭.

Today was the day were I was doing my daughters hair, I noticed such a quality change. Her hair felt bouncy, there was less tangle, less breakage, less knots, the shine was radiant and most importantly, there was less crying. I asked myself “whats changed” and like a clafy, I looked at the bottle and started laughing.
All it took was 1 change. 1 change to the routine to get my daughter’s hair back to how I knew it: copious, vibrant and healthy from root to tip.

Now of course like most things, this wasn’t an over night change. It just took me, until today to notice a difference 🙃😅. But i'm glad i noticed it nonetheless.

As this is my first blog post, I just really want to say that, with most things, their needs to be a level of consistency. It’s soooo easy to fall off and loose sight of what you’re striving for and for me, the reason I kept going with my daughters hair, despite being lazy! ((🙄)) Was my “why”.

My “why” was for my kids to have healthy and strong hair. And to also educate them on the use of good quality natural products, no matter how much you get blindsided into trying other things.

There has been a lot of up roar about certain products damaging good quality healthy hair, unfortunately my household was a victim of that too (we'll save that blog for another day) I’m just glad it took today for me to notice the difference and to remind myself that sometimes, it’s just best to stick to what was working in the first place.

Peace

Ri 🌱
[15/09/2024, 20:46:22]